20:11 יא כַּבֵּד
אֶת-אָבִיךָ, וְאֶת-אִמֶּךָ--לְמַעַן, יַאֲרִכוּן יָמֶיךָ, עַל הָאֲדָמָה, אֲשֶׁר יְרוָר אֱלֹקֶּיךָ נֹתֵן לָךְ It
is not so clear what the Gidarim are for this Mitzvah. The Gemara in Maseches
Kiddushin 31b (3 lines from the bottom) says, ת"ר
איזהו מורא ואיזהו כיבוד מורא לא עומד במקומו ולא יושב במקומו ולא סותר את דבריו
ולא מכריעו כיבוד מאכיל ומשקה מלביש ומכסה מכניס ומוציא Lets say your mother asks you to wear a coat when you go out.
Are you Oiver on Kibbud or Yirah or are you not Oiver on anything if you choose
not to wear a coat? The Sefer Hamakne writes clearly that a person is Oiver
anytime he disobeys a parent. There is a Dibrois Moshe that disagrees strongly
and says that a person is only Oiver if he disobeys one of the things that are
listed in the Gemara and anything else he is not Oiver on.
Rav Pam
had Rayas to the Hamakne including the Gur Aryeh (Maharal) on this week’s
Parsha who says you are Oiver on Yirah if you disobey. There is the Sefer
Yir’ahem that sides with Rav Moshe that you are not Oiver. It is hard to Pasken
such a Shaila. Of course it is better to be Machmir.
There is
a Machloikes Shach and Taz at the beginning of Siman 240 if the Chiyuv not to
contradict a Father, is that only in front of him or even not in front of him.
A P’shara might be if a father asks a child to put on a coat. The child can put
on the coat in front of him and when he is not on front of the father he has 2
Tzirufim to be Maikail and take off the coat. 1) The Shach who holds that not
in front of him it is not an Issur to contradict a father and 2) Rav Moshe’s
Shittah that it is Bichlal not included in the Aveira.
Most
probably it is not the best thing to teach children that they have to only
listen to parents while they are in front of them, however, technically and
Halachically this seems to be a Gevaldiga P’shara and an important Halacha.
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