A Dvar
Mussar: Parshas Mishpatim discusses Dinei Mamon which is always a big Nisayon.
Being honest in finances is a big Nisayon. However, the fights and arguments
between people regarding money could mostly be avoided if people would realize
something that is true about the nature of people. You all know that what is
for your good you see your way. 2 Honest people will see things 2 different
ways.
There
was a case that came to me as a Din Torah which is a good Mashul of the
truth of most disagreements. The employee as part of her compensation package
was receiving health insurance benefits at no extra out of pocket cost. Her
husband started receiving health insurance benefits as part of his compensation
package from his job. The employee went to her boss and said that since she
will no longer be needing the health insurance benefits, she would like an
increase in her salary commensurate to the health insurance cost that the
employer will now be saving. He agreed. After awhile that she had not received
an increase in her salary she once again approached her boss with her request.
This time she thought that she would receive it as a onetime bonus for the full
year. The employer said it is true that
the employee came to me; however, I never promised her the money. So she came
to me a second time and again I did not promise her money. I don’t know where
she is getting this from? They were being very nice to each other; however,
they were both accusing each other of being liars.
Upon
pinning them down to the exact words used in the exchange, the employer after
being approached by the employee to increase her salary as she didn’t require
health benefits anymore said, Zeh Nehene V’Zeh Loi Chasar. The employee
understood it to mean, I will get the money that anyway the employer was
spending, so I gain and the employer doesn’t lose. The employer understood the
exchange as I will gain as now I don’t have to spend money on health benefits
and the employee doesn’t lose as she still will have health benefits albeit
from her husband. So each one heard that I will be Nehene. However, there were
2 translations of the phrase.
Very
often there are disagreements between 2 honest good people where something is
translated one way and what is being heard by each party is that only they are
going to gain.
The
Halacha is if you take someone to court Sheloi K’din, not only are you not
entitled to the money that the court gives you, you really have to reimburse
him for his legal expenses as well even if you are the one who is right.
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