(האיש מדיר את בנו בנזיר). A man can make his son a Nazir. The
Gemara says on the top line of 29a (אמר ריש לקיש כדי
לחנכו במצות) this is to train
him in doing Mitzvos. This idea is a Pliya as I guess you will all appreciate
and understand that a man is Mechaneich his son to be a Nazir. What does that
mean? What in the world is that supposed to mean? A person doesn’t need Chinuch
to be a Nazir. A child will never be a Nazir unless he makes himself a Nazir.
The Maritz Chiyus in Nazir 29 asks this Kasha. What’s
Shayich in a Mitzvah that will likely never happen to the child and he
certainly never has to do? I would ask a second Kasha. We have a rule Ain
Chinuch L’Aveilos there is no obligation to be Mechaneich a child in being an
Avel in practicing Aveilos because Aveilos is Lo Shichichi. One of the reason
given by Rishonim is it is not a common thing that occurs. Nezirus is certainly
less common (Shichiach). Tzorech Iyun Gadol?
In the Keren Orah on Nazir 29 he says a beautiful
Pshat. It very much ties to what we spoke about earlier. He says we are not
Mechaneich a child to be a Nazir, we don’t anticipate that he will be a Nazir.
However, we are Mechaneich a child in Perishus. In being able to push away his
physical needs and physical desires in order to follow the commandments of the
Torah. Nezirus is an example of that Chinuch, however, it is an extreme
example. The idea that we are Mechaneich a child is this idea of being Mecheneich a child to understand this very
basic very fundamental idea of being a Porush. Therefore, this makes a lot of
sense that we have to be Mechaneich our children in Perishus. This is something
that we in our generation have not succeeded in doing. We want the best for our
children and we tend to follow our natural inclination to give them everything
they want. To give them nice clothing, fancy clothing, even when they don’t
need it. They are 3, 4, 5 years old and we tend to dress our children
beautifully. For what? We dress them like dollies, what are we doing?
We are being Mechaneich them the reverse of a Nazir.
We are Mechaneich them to need more and more and more. The message of the Nazir
is that we should be Mechaneich our children from early on and teach them not
to need more, not to need extra, not to need things that are really not
required. For that reason it would be very good if we would take the lesson of
Nazir to heart. Especially this lesson of Nazir.
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